Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?
You’re not alone.
Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also kill the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place.
Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:
1. SEND THEM A UNIQUE GIFT
Do something like this … Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Stevens, Level 20, Smith and Jones Advertising, 365 Park Ave, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.
2. BECOME KIDS AGAIN
If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.
3. FUN WITH WATER
On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.
4. A MASSAGE WITH A TWIST
Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)
5. BRING BACK CHILDHOOD MEMORIES
Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.
6. STARE AT THE CLOUDS
Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.
7. WALK ALONG THE BEACH
Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.
8. ORGANIZE A PICNIC ON A WARM SUMMER’S NIGHT
Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.
9. SHOW YOUR PARNTER THAT YOU’RE GRATEFUL FOR THEM
Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”
10. SPICE UP YOUR LOVEMAKING
Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.
Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.
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Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience.